I think that it is counter-productive for one
to try to overcome strong feelings of desire or aversion, to bury them or push them away in order to to be
more "spiritual," trying to replace thoughts of a "lacking
self" with those of a "complete self."
"Self" doesn't even come into the picture! All the truth
studying, the contemplation, the meditation, is a preparation for the Silence, that state
which is free of "engagement" with whatever comes into our
field of perception: things, thoughts, sensations, pertaining to any sense of "self". It even comes down to
not engaging with the desire to transcend desire, which is just another
image, flickering on the movie screen of Unblemished Awareness, the I that I AM. In the
pristine silence of the "resist not" realm of Being, the Kingdom of IS, we
allow the Inner Voice to pray within us and say, "Son [child] thou
art ever with me, and ALL that I have [I AM] is thine [and ONLY what I have,
and I AM, is all there is to You
as ME.] IS;
AM; NOW; ONE: the only “antidote” for desire!